[chapman]

In another discord server I hung out in for a bit you would join the chat and say a lot of stuff that was specifically to make people in there uncomfortable and made lots of sexist comments claiming they were jokes or you were just drunk.

That sounds pretty close to exactly how I acted right around when I got this forum ban. 


I will not defend how I behaved in the past, I just ask that you understand that who I was then is not who I am now. Again, as I had stated prior to you saying this, I respect how you stand on this appeal. 

I do not make those kinds of comments or jokes anymore, as I realized that was something that was unacceptable behavior. I'm unfortunately a late bloomer when it comes to growing and reflecting on things, so it has taken me quite some time to look back on it and try and change qualities that I value. What I value more than anything else now is respect between community members and myself, so I might still goof off and joke in the discord but I never in any way want to go out of my way to make someone intentionally uncomfortable.


Thanks for bringing that up, Panda.


EDIT: After seeing what you have edited in your post, I will make some additional comments and leave it at this.


Panda, the issue you're talking about occurred in April of 2023. After going back through messages and multiple servers because I had to remind myself of where I even was in a server with you before, that external server had an issue that involved a Dink's member I will not name and myself. That member and I had a private conversation probably sometime after you left, and that issue was resolved. I stopped doing what you were talking about, which was joking at that players' expense in a variety of manners. That person and I are still friends today.

Trying to make an argument that I should not be allowed near community members as if I were doing something that is community bannable is a rather extreme stance to take on the matter. This entire situation you're mentioning by the way happened OUTSIDE of the Dink's community, as Slater mentioned, so after some thought, I find it incredibly inappropriate that you're using external evidence to be a valid reason.

April 2023 was 9 months ago. I think most people would consider that a decent bit of time and not "a few months ago and not long enough to change."


Thank you.