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I agree that this is exactly what people who are given advice or guidance feel after a situation where they are not at fault. I know personally that I like to fix things and have been guilty of trying to convince someone who just went through something of all the changes they need to make for it to not happen again. 

This is a perspective I heavily align with. I was basically raised by peers in school to be The Problem Solver™ in most things, so I got used to fixing everything people came to me with, and then started trying to offer unsolicited advice on things because of that. It's truly a bad habit, and something people who do this should probably consider is sometimes someone will benefit most by just you listening and letting them know their plights are seen. Sometimes someone just needs to vent. Sometimes they do need that blunt force trauma advice too, but it's a tightrope. 

This is a large part of why sometimes people may feel like I'm not addressing an issue properly at first, because I'm still processing and/or gathering information on it to actually address it how I want to. (I'm also just someone who tends to always speak their mind which plays into this as well.) Which is something other people should consider, people process information at different rates, and might not have the responses you want on things when you want them if they still need more information. It's not that they don't care that this terrible thing may have happened, they just have always waited until they have as many facts as possible before they actually say anything about it.