04-30-2024, 04:27 AM
(This post was last modified: 04-30-2024, 04:35 AM by chapman. Edited 1 time in total.)
Privacy is a major thing. This whole "I'm afraid of leaks" situation that has been occurring due to various situations for multiple people in multiple servers has been ridiculous. You nailed it; so many of us have said severely heinous things in calls or in DMs.
I don't ever condone the usage of a "she got it because she's a woman" argument because that's disgusting behavior. As a public-school teacher, I see constant reminders of why women act the way they do when people begin to patronize them. There are several instances where I deal with students making comments about females driving and other things (just to provide some examples). Seeing comments like what Skullfire were making on a thread were absolutely pathetic.
And if things were handled properly when it occurred, you're right. None of the following drama that's been occurring recently would be going on (at least not as rampant or toxic in my opinion) and there might be a chance to salvage friendships. Personally, there are several I don't want to try to mend because there is a mutual dislike between both parties, and I don't feel like wasting my or their time with that. If there was one I wanted to fix, I would do it over a VC call because I'm similar to you that I believe humanizing the interaction is so important. The issue is we want to text and text can be misconstrued quite easily.
I think that because of the "clique" narrative, we forget that people can think for themselves. Nobody in any friend group is truly a "hivemind" (I used to make jokes about PH staff being one a while back but was never truly serious about it) and nobody ever agrees with what someone does 100% of the time. I personally wish a lot of the people I'm friends with would stop trying to add fuel to the fire, and I wish the other parties would stop entertaining it so easily.
The overall negativity is just not great. It's part of the reason I stopped playing GMOD, left the discord, and ultimately don't want to be involved any further. Some people might believe that I contributed to that negativity, which in some cases I did, but I don't think constantly going after people is it. If someone blocks you or doesn't reply to you, just leave it at that and hope maybe someday you could have that conversation.
Also, all the people who claim they "don't care" are bullshitting and not fooling anyone.
I don't ever condone the usage of a "she got it because she's a woman" argument because that's disgusting behavior. As a public-school teacher, I see constant reminders of why women act the way they do when people begin to patronize them. There are several instances where I deal with students making comments about females driving and other things (just to provide some examples). Seeing comments like what Skullfire were making on a thread were absolutely pathetic.
And if things were handled properly when it occurred, you're right. None of the following drama that's been occurring recently would be going on (at least not as rampant or toxic in my opinion) and there might be a chance to salvage friendships. Personally, there are several I don't want to try to mend because there is a mutual dislike between both parties, and I don't feel like wasting my or their time with that. If there was one I wanted to fix, I would do it over a VC call because I'm similar to you that I believe humanizing the interaction is so important. The issue is we want to text and text can be misconstrued quite easily.
I think that because of the "clique" narrative, we forget that people can think for themselves. Nobody in any friend group is truly a "hivemind" (I used to make jokes about PH staff being one a while back but was never truly serious about it) and nobody ever agrees with what someone does 100% of the time. I personally wish a lot of the people I'm friends with would stop trying to add fuel to the fire, and I wish the other parties would stop entertaining it so easily.
The overall negativity is just not great. It's part of the reason I stopped playing GMOD, left the discord, and ultimately don't want to be involved any further. Some people might believe that I contributed to that negativity, which in some cases I did, but I don't think constantly going after people is it. If someone blocks you or doesn't reply to you, just leave it at that and hope maybe someday you could have that conversation.
Also, all the people who claim they "don't care" are bullshitting and not fooling anyone.