[Cimag]

How is he supposed to engage in the community if he's limited to situations where he would feel compelled to speak up? If you read under this post, you'll see nothing but people talking about interactions with caribou with little to no respect for him changing. Their only argument is "I played with this guy, and I don't want to play with him". You expect someone to interact with people who lack interest, bring comfort, or trust anything he says? It's not a lack of opportunity; it's a lack of people wanting to interact with someone who has had months to change who they are.

Is almost as if, that lack of comfort and trust was a byproduct of a repeated pattern of behavior that got him banned not once but trice, and in the same topic, how are people expected to just "let it go" and allow a player that harrass them and show little to no respect multiple times? You expect people just to suck it up ? It is a lack people wanting to interact with someone who has had multiple (not just once) opportunities to change who they are just to repeat the same behavior

So then how would you expect him to engage in the feedback if nobody will accept that he changes. You're essentially giving him an impossible task and the only way he would be able to interact with anyone is if they talk to him first. It wouldn't be fair to ask him to put himself in an uncomfortable situation for the sake of reconciliation.  Caribou has taken accountability and apologized to multiple people in his past appeals, there's not much more he can do if you're just going to tell him to interact with people that want nothing to do with him.

How would you expect him to get unbanned if all the engagement and positive interactions he has are from his circle of friends, the whole point of him changing and making the appeal is showing he can engage or at least try to engage (making an appeal IS NOT engaging) with the people that are not fond of him, if its impossible to him to behave like a normal human being without harrasment or passive aggressive comments that's a (him) issue and not a community issue, the opportunity to engage is there, if he doesn't take it because he feels he's "compelled to" that's again a (him) issue, how are people to believe he's "changed" if all that there is to the table is:
1. I'm his friend and I'm okay, therefore he's okay 
2.Hes says he's sorry^3
3.Other people did worse 

The same exact arguments from the previous appeal with little to not evidence shown that he received and practiced the feedback he was given

He has already engaged with the people who aren't fond of him in his last appeal, he acknowledged his wrongdoings and took accountability for what he did and look where it got him. He's back at square one even after engaging with them. What difference would if make if he directly messaged them and showed what he already did in the last appeal. He's clearly behaving like a normal person and hasn't said any comments relating to harassment or any of the sort in any of his engagements on discord or the forums during his ban. It's not only the "circle of friends" who are saying to unban him, there are staff members and regulars on the server who are agreeing.

At this point you are clearly running around the Rosie trying to dismisss his behavior as something little, the whole so called "engagement" in both of those appeals are "I did it cus I'm sad" "I did it but other player did it too' which are not a valid excuse here nor in any other place, you keep cherry picking "messaging people directly " as if it was the only alternative he was given, which clearly was not, he has had plethora of chances and time to show he has changed, and even without comparing him to any other ban his history speaks for itself, if you only take accountability when it suits you that isn't accountability that's just play pretend, even more so when this is your third time for something you said you were going to change in previous occasions that are well documented as well, and there are plethora of staff members and good ol' regulars on the server that are aware of this type of person and are disagreeing with his unban as well