[matt_st3 (Strongrule)]

For example I asked in admin chat if anyone's going to gag specific people for harassment, but someone (I don't even remember who) said they'll start watching out for it BECAUSE the victim had asked the group of people to stop after a while. Why not take the initiative to simply !psay them and ask if it's making them uncomfortable if you can't tell if it's harassment or not?

I wish I could upvote this more than once. Speaking up to a staff member if you don't like how people are talking about you/treating you is very hard.

Problem is that so many people, certain groups, within the community talk to each other like trash commonly. Remember the whole fiasco where we tried easing up on language? Same theory, you give an inch and some idiot takes a mile. This is why preemptive staffing and discretion are so important for staff. A lot boils down to managing people which not everyone knows how to do. 

Still not sure if I’ll type of my own response since I’ve been preaching the solutions for years now. Eventually it gets old to repeat yourself, which I only have so much patience for.