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I believe you're entitled to your name all you want despite my own beliefs on it's problematic nature, however the discretion of the community's staff comes down to the fact that the server is a private entity and in such the people who control and make the rules for said entity generally NEVER align 100% with what you consider ok. If you don't agree with them or believe it's totalitarian you are not being forced to remain on the server. If you really are this passionate about this specific thing and see NO compromises on this topic it shouldn't be that hard to walk away. If a majority of people agree with you enough to make a difference in how the server is run then I don't see how leaving wouldn't prove your point, not unlike if a company pisses people off and their profits drop because people stop buying their stuff.

Don't take this as a challenge either, I'm just offering a perspective as a non-staff member and as someone who doesn't know you.