03-25-2024, 08:34 AM
this conversation made me seriously consider resigning, and the DMs i received after the conversation would have pushed me to do it had proper not messaged me. being corrected and called "ape brained" and "crazy" when i try to talk about an issue that many women in the community deal with was upsetting. it's frustrating now to watch the substance of my words be reduced to "bullying" because some of you believe that people's actions can't be criticized as long as they have good intentions.
i'm so baffled by this thread. if you read the conversation, you can see that i'm only talking directly to hoy in the first and third messages i sent, and in both of those messages, i'm saying "she's an adult and she's doing this because as a woman on the internet she learned that the best way to handle scary men is to be nice to them, so stop giving her stranger danger lessons like a naive child". that was all i had to say to hoy, and just because i didn't say it with a smile doesn't mean i was "freaking out".
after that, no name continued to try to reject my criticism on hoy's behalf, and i spoke to no name about what hoy said and about the behavior of a lot of other men in the community towards women. this is not "going in on" or "bullying" hoy, and calling it that is just blaming me for other people in the conversation bringing up hoy's name after i tried to move onto a greater issue. and the way y'all kept trying to drag coco into the conversation in an effort to debunk my point was incredibly unfair to coco, and referring to her response as a "ruling" in this post is seriously undermining the point several of us were trying to make. this conversation wasn't just about coco and hoy. a lot of men in this community treat women like children, and the second you receive criticism for it, you insult and belittle the person criticizing you. it's just ridiculous.
i'm so baffled by this thread. if you read the conversation, you can see that i'm only talking directly to hoy in the first and third messages i sent, and in both of those messages, i'm saying "she's an adult and she's doing this because as a woman on the internet she learned that the best way to handle scary men is to be nice to them, so stop giving her stranger danger lessons like a naive child". that was all i had to say to hoy, and just because i didn't say it with a smile doesn't mean i was "freaking out".
after that, no name continued to try to reject my criticism on hoy's behalf, and i spoke to no name about what hoy said and about the behavior of a lot of other men in the community towards women. this is not "going in on" or "bullying" hoy, and calling it that is just blaming me for other people in the conversation bringing up hoy's name after i tried to move onto a greater issue. and the way y'all kept trying to drag coco into the conversation in an effort to debunk my point was incredibly unfair to coco, and referring to her response as a "ruling" in this post is seriously undermining the point several of us were trying to make. this conversation wasn't just about coco and hoy. a lot of men in this community treat women like children, and the second you receive criticism for it, you insult and belittle the person criticizing you. it's just ridiculous.
