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For context, I had some beef with a guy who told me to go kms after stopping his queue for a song, when he said that I was shocked and I took that personally. The reason was that I used to be in a very rough period of my life (which I am doing fine now) and that sparked me to go target him. Could I have handled the situation better? Yes, 100%. But if I would do that it would probably be just a staff member saying "Hey don't say that shit" and that would be the end of that. Some people would say that I am an asshole and immature for doing this. To them, I say that I did what I think was right for me. My overall end goal here was to say that suicide should always be taken seriously.
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You don't need anyone to find some arbitrary way in explaining to you that what you did was wrong, all I can say is I hope this doesn't happen again as you are generally a positive presence in the community.
In the future, if you do have a genuine social problem come up with someone else in the community please bring it up to a staff member that you trust so that the issue can be handled in a more constructive way, and in a way that doesn't disrupt the entire point of you being here in the first place, to have a good time
What they said to you rubbed you the wrong way, understandably, but it's always possible for people to find an understanding between each other and the staff team is here to help you with that.
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(02-01-2025, 02:22 AM)symptom maddox Wrote: ![[Image: Screenshot_90.png?ex=679f184d&is=679dc6c...6985f2a9c&]](https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1124229227877769317/1335142984706031656/Screenshot_90.png?ex=679f184d&is=679dc6cd&hm=f2569bc30c7cdea212761913fe641a9cb3d0dd8a924197854d856e26985f2a9c&)
I’m sorry you ran into a difficult patch in your life; You are not alone. Many, many people go through similar situations and almost all of them come out the other end a stronger person. I’m glad to hear that you’re one of them.
That being said, I need to say that this behavior is not acceptable. Targeting is the wrong way to handle any kind of issue on the server, but messaging other people outside of the game to help you target someone in the game is even worse. I’m kind of shocked that you would post this because this is leaning towards harassment in my opinion.
As staff, we’re here to help defuse these types of situations, so PLEASE DO NOT take things into your own hands like this. This behavior inflames problems to a point where they often become wayyy bigger than they have to be. Just reach out to a staff member, provide as much context and evidence as you can, and let us deliver the appropriate punishment and/or mediation as warranted by the situation.
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(02-01-2025, 11:32 AM)Im A Bald Eagle Wrote: (02-01-2025, 02:22 AM)symptom maddox Wrote: ![[Image: Screenshot_90.png?ex=679f184d&is=679dc6c...6985f2a9c&]](https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1124229227877769317/1335142984706031656/Screenshot_90.png?ex=679f184d&is=679dc6cd&hm=f2569bc30c7cdea212761913fe641a9cb3d0dd8a924197854d856e26985f2a9c&)
I’m sorry you ran into a difficult patch in your life; You are not alone. Many, many people go through similar situations and almost all of them come out the other end a stronger person. I’m glad to hear that you’re one of them.
That being said, I need to say that this behavior is not acceptable. Targeting is the wrong way to handle any kind of issue on the server, but messaging other people outside of the game to help you target someone in the game is even worse. I’m kind of shocked that you would post this because this is leaning towards harassment in my opinion.
As staff, we’re here to help defuse these types of situations, so PLEASE DO NOT take things into your own hands like this. This behavior inflames problems to a point where they often become wayyy bigger than they have to be. Just reach out to a staff member, provide as much context and evidence as you can, and let us deliver the appropriate punishment and/or mediation as warranted by the situation. I get that telling staff would be the best thing to do but that would not sit right with me just leaving it as that. We have different views on the matter and i respect your thought on the matter. I was 100 percent willing the face the consequences of the eventual end of this whole dilemma.
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I'll drop the trollish persona here for a moment.
I've known 14 people, Marines and Soldiers, and Corpsman who've committed suicide. 2 cops, too. It gets hard and personal when it's something so close to you. And I think more than anyone else on the server, after two deployments, four years working as a Police Officer, I responded to, experienced, and saw many instances of suicide. I saw kids take their own lives, fathers, sons, I've stood over the holes that I watched my friends and comrades and coworkers get lowered into. I had to stare at pictures for hours, combing through every picture I've ever taken hoping that I had more interactions with them than I remembered. I wanted so desperately to remember them that I sat there, combing through pictures upon pictures.
So yes, I do agree, suicide is a big deal. I don't want to participate in the trauma olympics, because unfortunately, I'd probably win with most, if not all, people here. And it's not a good feeling, it's not something you should take lightly.
However, I'll tell you something that people should also tell you.
You don't get to dictate what happens to you, but you *do* get to dictate what you do with it. It's the internet, it's real life, whatever you want to say. People are going to say things that you don't like. People are going to say 'kill yourself' or make jokes about offing themselves. Even I do it. It's a facetious statement, it's something they don't truly mean. And you have to understand that it's a vernacular, an insult. Just like how everyone says "go fuck yourself" doesn't imply you go to the nearest store and buy a suction dildo to use in the shower. You have to be able to build up some mental resilience and live. If you are so triggered and upset by someone making that comment on the internet, you don't need to be an environment that is mostly made up of people speaking freely. Even I don't particularly like that statement, but I understand that it's very common to say nowadays and that it's a fact of life. There's also just a quiet moment to reflect and then take it upon yourself to pull that person aside and gently ask "hey man don't say that". I have to say that a few times in my social life, and probably will for many more times over. But to react like this shows me that there's something troubling you more than just the statement, and that you need to conquer it to live your life to the fullest you can.
I genuinely love the people on the server, and I love the community and in some weird roundabout Christian way that's hard for people to understand, I love you too. So I hope things get better, and there's less instances like this in your future.
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I get your feelings on this maddox. As someone that has and continues to struggle with depression and suicide. The answer, however isn’t to hit back and even encourage other people in targeting someone with actions that border or harassment.
On a personal note, I know the struggle and fight with depression is a constant one. If there’s anything you ever want to talk about, feel free to reach out to me in DMs.
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(02-01-2025, 04:02 PM)Hotshot Wrote: People are going to say 'kill yourself' or make jokes about offing themselves. Even I do it. It's a facetious statement, it's something they don't truly mean. And you have to understand that it's a vernacular, an insult. Just like how everyone says "go fuck yourself" doesn't imply you go to the nearest store and buy a suction dildo to use in the shower. You have to be able to build up some mental resilience and live. If you are so triggered and upset by someone making that comment on the internet, you don't need to be an environment that is mostly made up of people speaking freely. Even I don't particularly like that statement, but I understand that it's very common to say nowadays and that it's a fact of life. I have issues with these statements, Just because people can speak freely doesnt mean they would have the right to tell someone to keep yourself safe, that's insane, even if it is just a joke, you shouldnt joke about it to someone that you dont know that well and dont know if they will take it personally or not. Especially telling that to a child....... that is just............I have no words. I dont support the targeting maddox did but I do understand his reaction.
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(02-01-2025, 04:21 PM)JesseTheUndeadCowboy Wrote: (02-01-2025, 04:02 PM)Hotshot Wrote: People are going to say 'kill yourself' or make jokes about offing themselves. Even I do it. It's a facetious statement, it's something they don't truly mean. And you have to understand that it's a vernacular, an insult. Just like how everyone says "go fuck yourself" doesn't imply you go to the nearest store and buy a suction dildo to use in the shower. You have to be able to build up some mental resilience and live. If you are so triggered and upset by someone making that comment on the internet, you don't need to be an environment that is mostly made up of people speaking freely. Even I don't particularly like that statement, but I understand that it's very common to say nowadays and that it's a fact of life. I have issues with these statements, Just because people can speak freely doesnt mean they would have the right to tell someone to keep yourself safe, that's insane, even if it is just a joke, you shouldnt joke about it to someone that you dont know that well and dont know if they will take it personally or not. Especially telling that to a child....... that is just............I have no words. I dont support the targeting maddox did but I do understand his reaction.
I have been told that I should kill myself, that I'm a murderer, a traitor, a racist, a piece of shit, a Nazi, a fascist, everything under the sun, right in my face. Three inches away I had someone screaming in my face that I should die, they were going to rape my family, and kill me and hang me from a noose. Of course you're going to have issues with these statements. They're unpleasant. But they don't mean it. Not really. I didn't really get that until later. People just say things, without thinking in environments like online or in a crowd.
You can't predict someone else's reaction to a rather innocuous internet joke. I can't. I can apologize, sure. But to act like you have the right to not be offended everywhere you go is foolish. You have to be mentally resilient to some things, disagree, or be vocal and tell them why you don't like it.
I can understand being upset, but lashing out irrationally isn't the response you should have when something bothers you. It's nonsensical to believe that you can do that in every aspect of your life. Or that's a good reaction. You can't tell someone that. You can tell someone they can be upset, that they can be offended, but you can't sit there and tell them that it's okay to go over the edge and overreact. ESPECIALLY online. If you go into any other place, server, public park, whatever, even on this server, you run the risk of being offended. You don't want to be offended or be upset at what people say? Don't listen to strangers online out of fear. But if you interact with people, you run the risk of being offended by what they think or say. That's the price of being social and interacting with people. Plain and simple.
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