[Ckg]

i’m seriously grateful for your support but i would appreciate it if this thread doesn’t become an argument that will never reach a compromise. the concern they voiced was mostly about my response as a staff member, which was definitely inappropriate. lapis isn’t the person whose behavior should be put under a microscope here, so the criticism was valid regardless of what they’ve said on the server.

I agree that it is a valid criticism, yet Lapis acted like it was something completely out of the blue and something that repulsed them. Thus it would be an unfair statement to say that they expected you to be serious about it when they themselves joined in on the joke.  It's a valid opinion to have, just a fair bit dubious when they have given no hint prior to this that it made them uncomfortable and actually participated in the same action they admonished you for (implying that they were ok with it).